Women, more so than men; have faith in our spouse, our children, our parents and most of life’s species until we are shown otherwise.  Sometimes this is not to our advantage because we can get hurt and hurt bad; if we trust too much.  When we feel betrayed, depending upon from who and what; we proceed with caution.  It is never easy to trust or have faith as easily as before and we become skeptical of most people.  Where is the balance after we are betrayed?  Are there any; one for all answers  to how we again learn to trust and have faith in someone?  Probably not but, one cannot live the rest of their life without faith in God, others and themselves.  When finding faith to go on is hard; we must remember that these times make us stronger and better individuals ourselves.  Without these times; we would not grow or have more sympathy for others when they are hurting also.

When we have been bitten, so to speak, it scare us to think we could have been so foolish.  At least we feel foolish.  Actually we have done nothing wrong, we have only had faith in another human.  Learning from these moments we know that we must forgive and put it behind us so that we can move forward with grace.  It takes time and a lot of prayer.  It take time for the hurt to go away and sometimes it seems it will be there forever.  But, we must remember that “nothing last forever” not even pain that someone has inflicted upon us.  Time heals all.

Learning from our mistakes and finding balance again is most important in these situations.  We must remember that we are all human.  Humans make mistakes, it is just that simple and most of the time someone we are close to does not really mean to hurt us; it just happens without an intension to do so.  Forgiveness is one of the important steps and learning to stop blaming oneself for being unaware is a must and realizing that we too, make a mistake without meaning to.

God see the intentions of the heart of us all and he is aware that we sometimes fall into temptation that can lead us on the wrong path.  He does expect us to correct our ways and mend our relationships and stay away from the temptation.  He also expects us to express our need for repentance and forgiveness and to move forward with caution. 

For the wounded it is imperative to reach up for Faith When You Need it The Most.  Without “Faith”, it is impossible to please the Lord.  Faith is something we can’t be without.  We must keep faith in our children, our family, our friends and our God.  When we lose faith in the whole human race it is then we must reach up to the higher powers and pray for that needed strength to learn how to have the faith we once had and begin to trust again.

Emotions that are not controlled; can kill our influence, make us look weak and wreak havoc in our relationships; work and home.  They can even make us near crazy because we know we are acting like a third grader but, can’t seem to change what is happening.   If someone has always been a bundle of nerves;  it is not something that can necessarily be changed or conquered overnight.  People grow into who and what they are over periods of time and then it takes time to change bad habits. There may be even a need for professional help and medication.  With that said;  we grow into habits from our life experiences and we get to this state not because we wanted to,  but because we might have ignored our need for changing somewhere in our life.

No one can relate to us when we are stomping around the room, speaking in a high-pitched voice and acting like the end of the world just came.  Problems can’t be resolved nor can there be a clear vision of what might make the situation better.  It take a clear, calm, self-reliant, and self-controlled person to make sense of havoc. 

In major corporations today;  they are hiring  that person who has emotional intelligence (EI) for managing other people over the one with the higher technical skills. They absoluty know how to control themselves, be an example and manage other people.  Their attitude is great; they know that their attitude affect the entire department.  When someone is in control of their emotions and has mastered the techniques necessary to get a group of people who respect, follow and learn from them;  they have indeed, mastered emotional intelligence. 

People who have emotional intelligence are in touch with themselves and know themselves well.  They can even take criticism well,  yet they do not criticise others.  In fact they are encourager.  They are aware of other people’s needs and do not require to be the center of attention but they know how to get something done in a quite resolve.  In fact; these people can take a bad situation and make it good without even taking the credit for doing so.  They are well reserved, can mix and mingle with their staff, listen to suggestions and are open to ideas that are not their own.  They in fact enjoy giving credit and boosting someone else’s ego.  They do not look for a place to put the blame for a bad decision or project that has failed; they simply just look for a solution.  This is being in major in Controlling Our Emotions.

I think my first question is this…..how different is wanting “Wealth” from wanting “Success”. Most of us think that “Success” brings “Wealth”. Do we not? At least we think it brings us something more than pennies a day. My next question is; what has Wealth got to do with happiness and happiness with success?  There is nothing one can do within their life thoughts that will bring about Wealth, without work, or a Successful Life  without work.  Happiness can live where no wealth is.

My answers are this very simply put, happiness is not in the form of success or “Wealth”. It just isn’t. Wealth cannot make you happy anymore than success can and here is why. Wealth is something we accumulate from work or inheritence, it is something that is material with a monetary value…it is not common place for all but it is something that is good to have when it is placed in its proper status.

Happiness is something that can be common place for all who want it. It is something that is not inherited, given or stolen. It is something that comes from within a person’s spirit after determining it is something they choose to be. Happiness does not bring prestige, like wealth but it sends off vibes to those who do not have it, that there is more in life than just having an accumulation of money or things.

“Happiness can grow in any soil, live in any conditions. It defies environment. It come from within. Happiness consists not of having anything, but of being; not of possessing, but of enjoying. It is a warm glow of a heart at peace with itself. A martyr at the stake may have happiness that a king on this throne might envy. Man is the creator of his own happiness; it is the aroma of a life lived in harmony with high ideals. For what a man has, he may be dependent on others; what he is, rests with him alone. What he obtains in life is but acquisition; what he attains is growth. Happiness is the soul’s joy in the possession of the intangible”.  Words by William George Jordan

We can’t buy happiness with money, we can’t control it with money. Happiness is something that is generated from a soul that has accepted it’s status in life, whether it is a lovely family, working two jobs to pay the bills or head of the company with a mega buck salary. Either one will have their ups and downs, trials and temptations. Yes, simply put, money can buy what some think as a position in life with a companion who also possesses plenty, but there is no guarantees that any relationship, rich or poor will bring about happiness for a lifetime. Wealth can only buy so much, it cannot buy peace, contentment, love or a pain free life. It just can’t.  Wealth nor success can bring try Happiness.

True joy is actually not the financial position we have in life. It occurs when we can meet our life commitments, when we have a family with love and respect, when we have the generosity to help those who cannot help themselves, and most definitely whether we are commited to living a life of few regrets.

If  you must reach for Wealth, yet need Happiness to go with it…my thoughts are that one must know what both truly means.  One can be Wealthy and miserable.  One can have Happiness and have only what is sufficient for the day.  There is nothing wrong with accumulating Wealth, nothing wrong with working for it, but it not what we have that makes us happy, it is who we are and what kind of soul we have.  In short, it is a soul that is at peace with itself.

It is not something that comes easy for anyone that has really been deeply hurt.  With a hurt there are stages just as with any other process of life wrenching issues such as death etc.  We are hurt to begin with so badly we can’t eat, we can’t sleep, we can’t stop thinking about it and we just want to curl up somewhere and never come out again.  Does this help?  No, but it is just one of those processes and only time can heal some wounds.  Once we get over the most devasting part of our pain, we then get angry, usually angry that we were such a fool or stupid…we say.  We should have know better to trust, to hope, to believe, to let someone else close to us….Yes, we get angry with ourselves and then we have to forgive ourselves for being …….whatever we were.   Sometimes it is harder to forgive ourself than it is the other person, but it does come with time.  After we put it into prospective we then remember the other persons part in this and we begin to put the blame back upon them and we get angry with them.  Does it help?  Well at least we can then get up in the morning without feeling like we haven’t slept all night and have more of a sense of I am going to take on this old world because it is not my fault and I am going to survive.  When we get this attitude…things start improving, more and more each day.  We know it wasn’t really anything we did, it was other factors totally within the other persons desires and needs…not something we did.

Once we get to the place that we can see the person and not feel anything at all, we know we have completely gotten over it and all is well again.  Probably the best thing has happened and we see it before long and know that somehow God was watching out for us…after all.  Sometimes we think we want something that is totally not good for us, sometimes we are so determined to have someone or something that only brings us pain.  Why do we want to live like this?  Who knows! 

The path to forgiveness is never the same for all of us, I am sure but I do know that healing involves forgetting and if we cannot forgive, it is not hurting anyone but us.  We are at this point still allowing another person to control us instead of being free from the past and letting go of the thing that has taken so much from us.  It is not easy but it is something that is most important for us to do…forgive and forget.  It will bring with it the most rewarding freedom you have ever felt.   It helps you know that you can survive most anything and you learn each time that you are strong, you really do have worth…with each goodby you learn.  Forgiveness is devine! Forgiveness Do It Now is what we need to do for our own growth.

If we have Vision for reaching higher for what we want, then nothing on earth will stop us.  We should be sure that we are reaching for the right things, doing the right things and saying the right things or we will at some point reap the benefits of things that are wrong.  I fully believe we reap what we sow… On the other hand we will reap great blessing if we have our faith in the right places, present ourself with integrity and be good to others.  If we work hard, that is deifinitely something no one can take away and when we work hard, we reap the benefits of our labor.  Knowing what is right for us helps us make the right choices; lesson one means we have to find a way to make sure we are headed in the right direction.

It has to right for us, not something someone else wants us to do.  We have to have the ability and focus to do whatever it is and most of all enjoy, have a passion and see the end results in our mind.  Without a Vision, we do not get far. 

Plain and simple Success come with a Vision of the end results…

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